August 31 2014, 11:01 PM

The basis of most arguments against trans people is that we are not who we say we are, that we are always and only the gender that we were assigned at birth. And so much of that is about having a sense of certainty around gender, that when you were born with a certain set of genitalia, then that must dictate your entire life, and the reality is that that’s not trueA lot of people are not comfortable with that, because then that means they have to begin to question who they are.- Laverne Cox

August 31 2014, 10:17 PM
Anonymous
How is ''female queerness constantly undermined and invalidated by men''

thetalkingguineapig:

”she’s just experimenting” ”it’s a phase” ”she’s confused” ”can I watch?” ”can I join?” ”you’re a lesbian? that’s hot” *continues to hit on you*  ”you’re bi? wanna threesome?” ”lesbian sex doesn’t count” ”girls only do it for boys attention” ”she just needs to find the right man” ”I can change your mind” ”if you use dildos that means you really just want dick”

August 28 2014, 05:24 PM
for-transmen:

If you’ve been looking to bind, whether you’re transgender, non-binary, or a cosplayer, you’ve probably come across binders like these on Ebay, Amazon, or AliExpress. Usually they’re called E.V.A, SHO, Whatwears, or Ancient Fish King brands, all of which are apparently, interchangeable with each other. Ross is here to tell you that these chest binders are not much of a step up from ace bandages, which in case you hadn’t known already, are the worst thing you can do to bind your chest. So here’s the run down, from least bad to worst.

First off, the sellers are usually misinformed about why someone would use a chest binder is needed just from how they title them. Why would Lesbians want a chest binder (outside of cosplay?)? I don’t know, but most of these listings have lesbian in the name, suggesting that chest binders are for girls, not men or nonbinary. This right there should be a warning sign of a company that doesn’t know what they are doing.

The strapless binders’ model is wearing the wrong size for their chest. Their breast is popping out over the top of the binder, and I can personally say that with that binder, it is very, very, painful if you have a larger chest. After about 20 minutes, bruising and chaffing will occur, especially to those with larger chests or are heavier. In the worst case scenario, the breast will rip or pop as if it were cut with a knife.

Look at the materials used. These chest binders do not have any or enough stretchy material in them. Elastic or spandex is the best. On the ones that do have spandex, they don’t mention how much there is in the binder. This is an enormous, bright, flashing sign that the binder is NOT safe. Just how bad is it? Ace bandages likely have more elastic than these binders do, and the ace bandages can still kill you if they don’t maim you. A binder is supposed to stretch, be easily manipulated, and you must be able to take a full breath in them. I’ve bought and used two different types binders from Ebay not knowing any better, and I could barely take a breath at all. I did get larger and larger sizes, and with the same result. Putting it simply, their binders could be falling off of you because they are too big and still would not be safe. 
Now I can’t show you in a picture about the next part, but what’s probably the worst about these binders is that their ‘binding’ material goes all the way around the binder. Your binder should NOT have this unless it is made to correct back posture. Sports bras can, but that is better for again, correcting back posture. So not only will you be binding your chest, but you’ll be binding your ribs, back, and shoulders as well. This can warp them and damage the tissue. 
So what does a good binder look like? I’m going to use the binder I’ve had the best experience with as an example. The Ultimate Chest Binder Tank by underworks. I’ve bought two of these as I’ve needed them, I wore out my old one after a year and a half of use daily including at work.
So, straight off from the site, we know this seller is knowledgeable about their target audience. Chest binders are under the men’s section and you never see the word lesbian on any of them. The only thing marked for women under the chest binder section is a sports bra, put there because transgender men often use them for working out.

The information section on the binder isn’t just two or three lines, it’s a whole paragraph. What is this binder made of? Medical grade 70% nylon and 30% spandex knit. It says it right there and is readily available information, you don’t have to dig through the seller’s ads for cheap wholesale jewelry in the description to find it. The listing also tells us how much of each material is used, information you must have when buying a chest binder. My personal rule of thumb? If it’s under 20% spandex or elastic, it’s trash. Our listing also tells us how to put the binder on, rather than making you struggle to figure it out on your own. Size chart and customer reviews are readily available on the listing and not buried under ads for other unrelated merchandise. 

Also from looking at the binder’s pictures, the front and back of the binder is made differently; the front is thicker and non transparent while the back can bee seen through a bit and is thin in comparison. This is because the front of the binder is made to compress and bind the chest and the back of the binder is not. All the binding is in the front, support in the back. 
Please, know the difference between an unsafe binder and a safe one. Save your money and avoid ones found on ebay. Can’t afford a binder still? There are programs for people who cannot buy one on their own or it is unsafe for them to buy one. One such I know of is the In a Bind program, they have fantastic service if a bit slow delivery time. Remember, this program is only for transgender men and nonbinary, cosplayers will have to go elsewhere or outright buy a binder.

for-transmen:

If you’ve been looking to bind, whether you’re transgender, non-binary, or a cosplayer, you’ve probably come across binders like these on Ebay, Amazon, or AliExpress. Usually they’re called E.V.A, SHO, Whatwears, or Ancient Fish King brands, all of which are apparently, interchangeable with each other. Ross is here to tell you that these chest binders are not much of a step up from ace bandages, which in case you hadn’t known already, are the worst thing you can do to bind your chest. So here’s the run down, from least bad to worst.

Why is a chest binder for a lesbian?

First off, the sellers are usually misinformed about why someone would use a chest binder is needed just from how they title them. Why would Lesbians want a chest binder (outside of cosplay?)? I don’t know, but most of these listings have lesbian in the name, suggesting that chest binders are for girls, not men or nonbinary. This right there should be a warning sign of a company that doesn’t know what they are doing.

It's too tight!

The strapless binders’ model is wearing the wrong size for their chest. Their breast is popping out over the top of the binder, and I can personally say that with that binder, it is very, very, painful if you have a larger chest. After about 20 minutes, bruising and chaffing will occur, especially to those with larger chests or are heavier. In the worst case scenario, the breast will rip or pop as if it were cut with a knife.

These materials are not good

Look at the materials used. These chest binders do not have any or enough stretchy material in them. Elastic or spandex is the best. On the ones that do have spandex, they don’t mention how much there is in the binder. This is an enormous, bright, flashing sign that the binder is NOT safe. Just how bad is it? Ace bandages likely have more elastic than these binders do, and the ace bandages can still kill you if they don’t maim you. A binder is supposed to stretch, be easily manipulated, and you must be able to take a full breath in them. I’ve bought and used two different types binders from Ebay not knowing any better, and I could barely take a breath at all. I did get larger and larger sizes, and with the same result. Putting it simply, their binders could be falling off of you because they are too big and still would not be safe. 

Now I can’t show you in a picture about the next part, but what’s probably the worst about these binders is that their ‘binding’ material goes all the way around the binder. Your binder should NOT have this unless it is made to correct back posture. Sports bras can, but that is better for again, correcting back posture. So not only will you be binding your chest, but you’ll be binding your ribs, back, and shoulders as well. This can warp them and damage the tissue. 

So what does a good binder look like? I’m going to use the binder I’ve had the best experience with as an example. The Ultimate Chest Binder Tank by underworks. I’ve bought two of these as I’ve needed them, I wore out my old one after a year and a half of use daily including at work.

So, straight off from the site, we know this seller is knowledgeable about their target audience. Chest binders are under the men’s section and you never see the word lesbian on any of them. The only thing marked for women under the chest binder section is a sports bra, put there because transgender men often use them for working out.

YES! Good binder!

The information section on the binder isn’t just two or three lines, it’s a whole paragraph. What is this binder made of? Medical grade 70% nylon and 30% spandex knit. It says it right there and is readily available information, you don’t have to dig through the seller’s ads for cheap wholesale jewelry in the description to find it. The listing also tells us how much of each material is used, information you must have when buying a chest binder. My personal rule of thumb? If it’s under 20% spandex or elastic, it’s trash. Our listing also tells us how to put the binder on, rather than making you struggle to figure it out on your own. Size chart and customer reviews are readily available on the listing and not buried under ads for other unrelated merchandise. 

Also from looking at the binder’s pictures, the front and back of the binder is made differently; the front is thicker and non transparent while the back can bee seen through a bit and is thin in comparison. This is because the front of the binder is made to compress and bind the chest and the back of the binder is not. All the binding is in the front, support in the back. 

Please, know the difference between an unsafe binder and a safe one. Save your money and avoid ones found on ebay. Can’t afford a binder still? There are programs for people who cannot buy one on their own or it is unsafe for them to buy one. One such I know of is the In a Bind program, they have fantastic service if a bit slow delivery time. Remember, this program is only for transgender men and nonbinary, cosplayers will have to go elsewhere or outright buy a binder.

August 28 2014, 11:54 AM

hisokasturtleneck:

devilnachos:

hisokasturtleneck:

dont use the phrases female-bodied or male-bodied, ever 

is there any other phrase that you would prefer people using so we can avoid using female/male-bodied?

#had no idea people didn’t like this phrase

indeed, many people dislike the phrases. you should probably be in dialogue with more trans and intersex people, and listening to them more. its really easy, just find language that actually describes what you’re trying to convey without assigning social genders to specific biologies. if you’re talking about people with penises, say that. if you’re talking about cis women, say that. 

August 28 2014, 09:04 AM

Top Pentagon officials say it is ‘likely’ that trans soldiers will soon be allowed to serve openly 

August 28 2014, 09:01 AM

LGBT Women Are Poorer and Less Healthy Than Other Americans 

August 27 2014, 06:36 PM

In all probability, Hollywood will “Americanize” homosexuality and the gay lifestyle in its films just as it has incorporated everything else into American life onscreen… And it will mean the loss of a certain uniqueness. Just as Diahann Carroll played a very white black lady in the television series ‘Julia,’ gays will appear first as background, then - scrubbed up - as tokens, and finally as acceptable versions of what the world has always wanted to believe. It will not necessarily be the truth, but it will be an acceptable lie, and the cash registers will ring.

 - Vito Russo, The Celluloid Closet - 1981
August 27 2014, 05:02 PM

BBC commissions sitcom about (and starring) a trans woman 

gaywrites:

The U.K. is finally getting its first sitcom focused on trans characters.

The show is called “Boy Meets Girl,” about a guy who falls for a trans woman. And word on the street is that in this show, unlike in many others, her trans identity is NOT a punch line! (It’s sad that this is a big deal.) In fact, Boy Meets Girl was chosen for an award because of its positive portrayal of trans characters.

The sitcom is set in and around the city of Manchester, England, and the series pilot stars trans actress Rebecca Root. The synopsis of the series, which will air in six half-hour episodes on BBC2, seems to suggest a classic romantic sitcom with a trans twist:

"Leo’s had a bad day. He’s been fired (again), is being given a hard time by his mum and, to cap it all, his blind date fails to show up. But then he bumps into Judy and finds himself deeply attracted to this surprising and beguiling woman. They bond over drinks and, unfazed by the fact that there’s a bit of an age gap between them, arrange to meet the following evening. Leo’s mother is unhappy that he’s having dinner with an older woman. But Leo doesn’t care what she thinks; he knows that he’s just met someone very special."

The cast and premiere date have yet to be announced, but BBC says it’s committed to having a trans actress play the lead character. Awesome, awesome, awesome to hear. 

August 27 2014, 02:01 PM

ESPN airs homophobic report on the showering habits of gay football player Michael Sam 

gaywrites:

Michael Sam made history earlier this year, first when he came out as gay and then when he was drafted to the St. Louis Rams. 

But that’s not reason enough for ESPN to respect him. Deadspin found a clip from this week where SportsCenter looks into details about Sam’s locker room showering habits and how they affect other players. 

Reporter Josina Anderson explained that one player told her that Sam was “simply just one of the guys, and he seems to be taking a rookie approach in terms of just listening and learning at his own pace.”

“[The player] said he was just trying to feel his way through and, perhaps, see what guys he can relate to,” she continued. “But another Rams defensive player told me — quote — ‘Sam is respecting our space.’”

“And that from his perspective, he seems to think that Michael Sam is waiting to kind of take a shower, as not to make his teammates feel uncomfortable,” Anderson said.

The ESPN correspondent added that two other players said that they could not verify the shower report because “they weren’t tracking that.”

“[Defensive tackle Kendall Langford] told me, ‘Listen, I have not been in the shower at the same time as Michael Sam.’ He said there definitely could be a million reasons as to why that is,” Anderson asserted. “He said he could be doing extra work on the practice field, he could be riding his bike, he could be doing extra cardio.”

BREAKING NEWS: Gay people shower! Sometimes in locker rooms with other people! And sometimes alone! And it literally shouldn’t matter to anybody else!

August 27 2014, 12:26 PM

Film critic Robin Wood suggested that by ‘asking’ for admission to society and to the mainstream cinema, homosexuals were asking for acceptance from that society and therefore implicitly accepting society’s terms. The belief that society has the right to accept certain kinds of behaviour implies a belief that society may also prohibit certain behaviour. And the behaviour that society most often prohibits is that which falls in the area between marriage, family, and fidelity that homosexuals usually occupy - the area of ‘promiscuity,’ or having numerous relationships. Wood looked to the women’s movement and to the gay movement to define relationships that were free of society’s sexual role playing. He asked both movements to defy society’s automatic repression of what is usually labeled ‘permissive’ or ‘promiscuous’ behaviour; further, he asked that we not look to mainstream cinema to reflect a radical vision of sexuality.

 - Vito Russo, The Celluloid Closet