it doesn’t help me as a bisexual woman when people say that people take lesbian identities seriously, as real, as anything more than a phase.
a huge part of the troubles facing women is that all of us, every woman - lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, anything - is expected to be sexually available to men at all times. our own sexual identities don’t matter in the face of compulsory heterosexuality. our consent doesn’t matter.
the idea of what it means to be a woman in our world is to belong to a man.
there are better ways to talk about bisexual issues without erasing patriarchy.